Her Real View: It’s the little things #Summertime

Summer is slipping by faster than we know it. The days of sleeping in a little later still feel longer and the weather has been typical summer; hot and humid, rain and repeat. Perfect days to get out of the house and let ourselves just enjoy.

Before we know it, we’ll be back to the dreaded school routine of early morning, ass dragging to the bus stop fun.

It’s not easy living with chronic pain and a never ending sense of constant dread or mood swings that can ruin an otherwise perfect day. I’ve been taking this summer is small pieces; too much of a good thing is scary for me but I try.

We didn’t plan anything spectacular for our kids this summer other than sending the older two off to sleep-away camp but I know the memories we make together will still be special ones.

Today we took the kids out for a little nature walk to Petrie Island (right in Ottawa), an activity that allowed us to soak in the beauty of being outside and being outside together as a family. Something we don’t often do as the kids get older and our lives don’t slow down. We need to slow it down. It’s those small moments they’ll remember.

Some boats docked along the Ottawa River
The FamJam

Beach #Selfie

Next time, we bring a blanket and a pic-nick.


June is Hip Dysplasia Awareness Month!

June is Hip Dysplasia Awareness month!

5 Quick Facts:

– Hip Dysplasia affects 1 in 1000 babies every year. Thank goodness technology today can detect it early! I wasn’t so lucky back in the 1980’s. I’m currently in treatment for severe bilateral hip dysplasia and arthritis.

– Hip dysplasia is a painful bone malformation disease that can develop over time or be hereditary.

– There are special surgeries, injections, physiotherapy and other methods to try to slow it down. Walking aids are often suggested and pain killers can be prescribed to help. Surgeons will exhaust every effort before a final decision to replace the entire hip with an artificial part. This could sometimes take years.

– The quality of life of people with hip dysplasia diminishes without proper medical treatment. Not all services are covered by OHIP (Ontario Health Insurance Plan) here in Ontario such as physiotherapy which can make it difficult for someone suffering to get the help they need to live a pain free life.

– Mental illness such as anxiety and depression can develop due to disabilities like hip dysplasia.

Visit the International Hip Dysplasia Institute to learn more about hip dysplasia awareness month and how you can help!

Know someone who’s trying to cope with life with hip dysplasia? Buy my ebook Adult Hip Dysplasia: Living a Dysplasic Life available now on your favourite reading platforms!


Mental Health Talk: Be kind, even on the bad days.

I had to pep talk myself through tears this morning, it started out as a bad, bad day.

I won’t get into gritty details but someone close to me hurt me in a way I didn’t think they ever would. They got upset with me over something beyond my control and raised their voice. I snapped back and raised my voice which just added fuel to the fire.

My illness and the fact I take medication thrown in my face. This is the stigma around mental illness that makes me sick to my stomach. When someone is on antidepressants they don’t always become “zombies” and they do have emotions, feelings and everything, JUST LIKE YOU. If not more intense due to their illness.


Yes, my medication helps regulate my moods but they aren’t miracle “happy pills” that change my mood in a snap. I still feel things like everybody else. If I’m upset, I will let it be known. If I’m insulted or hurt, I will defend myself. If I’m amused, I will laugh my ass off. I’m still human, I’m just in the repair shop.

Invisible disabilities are still disabilities. If a loved one is going through some stuff, the first thing they need is your support, not your judgement.

I wrote this on Instagram:

Treatment and recovery through any illness takes time. I will have good days, I will have bad days. I will laugh, I will cry. I will be confident, I will question myself. I will have it together, I will fall apart. Whatever the battle, nobody has the right to throw illness or treatment in anyone’s face. It’s MY life. I’m caring for ME. “Just because I’m having a bad day doesn’t mean I didn’t take my meds.” 😢 #DontJudge #ShowCompassion #Anxiety #GAD #Depression #PDD #ChronicPain #Lifesuckstoday

I am not ashamed of my illnesses. I am fighting every single day to “get better”, I am fighting every day to “find a way” and I’ll be damned if I’ll let someone’s negativity take over my hard work climbing back out of the hole I fell into.

Be kind to each other, you don’t know the other persons story. ❤️

25 1-minute Hip Exercises Routine! #HipDysplasia

Lately the yoga stretches I have been attempting to release tension in my back, strengthen my hips and legs plus relax myself a little before bed, hasn’t been enough.

In my condition, I don’t think it’ll ever be “enough” and when it’s “enough” it’s “too much”; if that makes any sense.

So, back to the drawing board I went (aka Google Search) to look up some different and possibly better (but still easy enough for me) exercises special for hips, legs and backs.

I found an image I thought I would share here (also to keep reference for myself) that shows 25 easy-enough yoga poses that take about 1 minute to do each.

image via Google

I = Inhale E = Exhale. Hold each pose 3-5 breaths.

Not all of these poses are for everyone; I know I will not be able to do certain ones like Wide Leg Forward Fold or others that require stretching in that angle because my left hip just won’t go that far.

I do these stretches to the best of my ability. I do not overdo it as not to hurt myself further or unnecessarily.

The important part is to stay healthy and do what is best for you! ❤️

Natural Remedies with products from eScential Wellness

Product review on behalf of eScential wellness. Complimentary samples received for review purposes. Opinions and comments are my own.

As part of my journey to better self care and overall better health, I have been open to trying new and different things to help my overall wellness.

eScential Wellness offers natural, science-based, small batch, vegan, toxin and cruelty free first aid and self care products for a variety of life’s everyday ailments. The best part: they work!

Headaches are something I get quite often and I don’t usually take anything for them. I have a fear of anything counteracting my anxiety meds so I try other methods like hot or cold compress, cold rub on temples or sleeping it off to no avail.

Headache Help gives me fast, effective relief from most headache pain. It’s a blend of science-backed essential oils, applies easy with a roller bottle and dries fast with a toxin free base. Just a few dabs on the temples, behind the ears and nape of the neck can conquer a headache within a few minutes with a tingly sensation and nice relaxing smell.

Ingredients: Ethanol, water, glycerin, aloe Vera extract, plant cellulose and essential oils of Peppermint, Spike and Eucalyptus.

Having anxiety over something stressful is no fun; especially when it hits when I least expect it. Those heart pumping moments when I need to be calm just seem to disappear as I search for control over my breathing.

Quick Calm has helped. 3-10 deep inhales (depending the severity of anxiety) and exhales of the inhaler quickly reduces the stress even just for a moment. It’s made with a blend of essential oils in a handy inhaler. A must have for your “first aid kit” or “medicine bag”.

Ingredients: Essential oils of Bergamot, Lavender, Sweet Orange, Geranium, and Spearmint.

For minor skin cuts, nicks, bug bites and abrasions, Skin Rescue Ointment is one I highly recommend. The therapeutic oil base and essential oils sooth, cleanse, protect and accelerate the return to smooth skin. Applying a small amount on a blemish helps heal it faster. For someone who nervously scratches when anxious, this is a godsend for my skin plus it smells nice.

Ingredients: Meadowfoam oil, Pracaxi oil, Andiroba oil, Black seed oil, Candellila wax, Vitamin E. Essential oils of: Bergamot, Frankincense, Myrrh, Lavender, and Yarrow.

All products by eScential Wellness are toxin free with no phthalates, parabens, or surfaces, free of artificial fragrances, colourants and synthetic chemicals. Science based formulations with pure, minimal ingredients. Small batch made in Canada, vegan and cruelty free.

I definitely recommend checking these and other wellness products that eScential wellness has to offer!